Friday, March 31, 2006
A great friend
03/31/2006
It has been a year since I have learned of Kurt’s tragic death. Having been his roomate at the US Naval Academy for 2 years, Kurt and I along with Steve Johnson have kept in close contact over the past 25 years. Having a reunion every 1-2 years was something we looked forward to. Whether it was hiking Yosemite, water skiing Lake Mead in Las Vegas, Golfing at Pebble Beach, or skiing at Banf Canada, we always had a blast and wished that maybe we should have done it more often. Kurt always went for the gusto,and I always admired that he was quite the world traveler, suba diving the barrier reef… or running up Napali Coast in Kauai before catching a flight.
Kurt was truely the “American Ambassador” to the world because he treated everyone with respect and utmost consideration. People who would meet him in San Diego would be immediately touched by his generosity and kinderd spirit. I am sure around the world… he embodified the virtues of what a true American represented.
I miss him dearly even after a year since his death and hope that we can somehow carry on his spirit of kindness, consideration and compassion as we encounter people that we meet.
I Love your Kurt
Your Friend
Allan Camaisa
Friday, March 17, 2006
One Year Ago.....
03/17/2006
Lately, I have been listening a lot to a CD by Trisha Yearwood called Jasper County. The first song is: Who Invented The Wheel. The lyrics remind me of Kurt and my feelings surrounding the whole ordeal. If you have the chance, buy a copy.
Today I brought purple and white tulips to Kurt’s grave. It’s been one year since Kurt’s death and to be honest with you, I don’t feel any differently. The shock has worn off, but the surreal and off-balance feel of unexpected death still lingers. Grief is a strange shadow I don’t wish on anyone. In time we will all past through this thing called grief, it just takes time.
There seems to be a paradox playing out here too. Meaning, I feel better as more time passes, yet at the same time I feel worse after more time has passed....since each day is a reminder of more time has elapse since I last saw Kurt.
The end of this month our family will be hosting a gathering in Bellevue, WA in honor of Kurt. Please contact me if you would like more information on this. Everyone will get an embroidered napkin with the following saying:
“We are not Human Beings having spiritual experiences,
We are Spiritual Beings having human experiences.”
….and, as Kurt would have said: “That’s classic!”
Friends & Family Gathering on March 31, 2006
In Honor of Kurt S. Harms
(November 28, 1958 – March 16, 2005)
We were lucky enough to find an Italian restaurant which graciously agreed to prepare the dish which Kurt had as his last meal. In addition, there will be choices of steak and fish.
Kurt certainly was gifted and full of fun; a wonderful spirit. People gravitated to him and he left a lasting impression. What a pleasure to have know him! And, I know he must be in Heaven if there is such a place. Knowing this brings comfort and the hurt becomes less sharp.
God Bless You, Kurt.
Your Sister, Lucy
Sunday, March 12, 2006
Love Hope and Prayers to Kurt, friends and family!
03/12/2006
It’s been almost a year since dad came home from work and said he had bad news, he looked like he had been crying and the last thing I expected was that Kurt had died. Kurt was like an uncle to my sisters and I, he was always supportive of anything we did and always looking out for our safety. When he died I felt like I lost the support that he gave me when I danced, we were struggling with leadership issues and so with him leaving us so suddenly my family and I left the dance group as suddenly as Kurt left. Nobody expected us to leave just like nobody expected Kurt to of all things die in a car accident. Dancing was something I did where I felt beautiful and I could feel graceful gliding across the floor. You see I’m known for tripping over cords and running into low objects (coffee tables are an example). Having left the dance group I was left with not one but two empty spots because even though Kurt was gone from this earth I really know he’s looking down at us and giving everyone the same love and support he gave us while he was here where we could see him, I didn’t open up to let that love in. My second empty spot was me not performing with the dance group, not being able to dance, laugh, and love with friends. So when I realized that I hadn’t lost Kurt really and that I needed to dance at least to do it for Kurt in memory of him. I know it’s almost a year from when he died but if you are going through the same thing as I did (loosing Kurt left you without support and you stopped doing what you loved) please open your hearts to his love it feels different like when you give a new friend a hug but it’s Kurt we just can’t see or feel him physically. And if anyone looses a friend just a close as Kurt was to a lot of us please do the same you never lose that person totally you still always have their love and support.
Love, Hope and Prayers,
Christina Moreland (daughter of Marion and Dana Moreland)