One Year Ago.....

03/17/2006

Lately, I have been listening a lot to a CD by Trisha Yearwood called Jasper County. The first song is: Who Invented The Wheel. The lyrics remind me of Kurt and my feelings surrounding the whole ordeal. If you have the chance, buy a copy.

Today I brought purple and white tulips to Kurt’s grave. It’s been one year since Kurt’s death and to be honest with you, I don’t feel any differently. The shock has worn off, but the surreal and off-balance feel of unexpected death still lingers. Grief is a strange shadow I don’t wish on anyone. In time we will all past through this thing called grief, it just takes time.

There seems to be a paradox playing out here too. Meaning, I feel better as more time passes, yet at the same time I feel worse after more time has passed....since each day is a reminder of more time has elapse since I last saw Kurt.

The end of this month our family will be hosting a gathering in Bellevue, WA in honor of Kurt. Please contact me if you would like more information on this. Everyone will get an embroidered napkin with the following saying:

“We are not Human Beings having spiritual experiences,
We are Spiritual Beings having human experiences.”
….and, as Kurt would have said: “That’s classic!”

Friends & Family Gathering on March 31, 2006
In Honor of Kurt S. Harms
(November 28, 1958 – March 16, 2005)

We were lucky enough to find an Italian restaurant which graciously agreed to prepare the dish which Kurt had as his last meal. In addition, there will be choices of steak and fish.

Kurt certainly was gifted and full of fun; a wonderful spirit. People gravitated to him and he left a lasting impression. What a pleasure to have know him! And, I know he must be in Heaven if there is such a place. Knowing this brings comfort and the hurt becomes less sharp.

God Bless You, Kurt.
Your Sister, Lucy